Every mom dreads the idea of their child being bullied by their peers at school. Sometimes, it would really just melt your heart when you hear the words " I don't want to go to school anymore Mom." But we always have to remember there's always a reason behind the bullying.
Yes, to answer your question, my "unico hijo" has been bullied so many times in school, especially by girls. At first of course, I don't like the sound of it. I somehow taught him how to stand-up against bullies. (Hey, I don't want my son to be a push-over!) LOL!
But, on the contrary, what we're really trying to instill into his being is to be a thinker, not to be a mindless attacker. We can see the difference every time he is with other kids. He always observes. Whenever there are kids fighting, he would look at them and then to us. There's always a look of questioning on his face.
Anyway, I taught him how to stand-up against bullies (its not a violent approach, don't worry) but there's one thing I always neglect to do before that. I didn't asked him about the situation. So finally, after months and months of blubbering about those bullies - by the way he gets really irritated - he would say "Mama, its really irritating already! - , last Saturday, we (this time Harold was with us) finally asked the right question to solve the problem - "Why? What happened? What were you guys doing?" Then he told us the most unexpected reason why those girls keep on bugging him - the reason was because he doesn't want to play with them but still, the girls keeps on following him (by the way, the girls are "Anastasia, Stephanie and Andrea") - then Anastasia said. "Because you're handsome what! And you're my boyfriend!" Guess how old that little girl is ... 5 years - as his age! I was like laughing so hard after that ... the fact that I felt furious every time he tell stories about the bullying.
Now, the case was solved finally. We just told him to be friendly with those girls because they like him. As we all know, boys at his age doesn't really like playing with little girls.
So parents, please do try to talk to your little ones. They are packed with surprises that will surely make your day. :D
Boy, as I look at my husband after that - "it looks like we're going to have major problems when he reach his adolescent stage" ... (hmmmm - worried Mom!)
Yes, to answer your question, my "unico hijo" has been bullied so many times in school, especially by girls. At first of course, I don't like the sound of it. I somehow taught him how to stand-up against bullies. (Hey, I don't want my son to be a push-over!) LOL!
But, on the contrary, what we're really trying to instill into his being is to be a thinker, not to be a mindless attacker. We can see the difference every time he is with other kids. He always observes. Whenever there are kids fighting, he would look at them and then to us. There's always a look of questioning on his face.
Anyway, I taught him how to stand-up against bullies (its not a violent approach, don't worry) but there's one thing I always neglect to do before that. I didn't asked him about the situation. So finally, after months and months of blubbering about those bullies - by the way he gets really irritated - he would say "Mama, its really irritating already! - , last Saturday, we (this time Harold was with us) finally asked the right question to solve the problem - "Why? What happened? What were you guys doing?" Then he told us the most unexpected reason why those girls keep on bugging him - the reason was because he doesn't want to play with them but still, the girls keeps on following him (by the way, the girls are "Anastasia, Stephanie and Andrea") - then Anastasia said. "Because you're handsome what! And you're my boyfriend!" Guess how old that little girl is ... 5 years - as his age! I was like laughing so hard after that ... the fact that I felt furious every time he tell stories about the bullying.
Now, the case was solved finally. We just told him to be friendly with those girls because they like him. As we all know, boys at his age doesn't really like playing with little girls.
So parents, please do try to talk to your little ones. They are packed with surprises that will surely make your day. :D
Boy, as I look at my husband after that - "it looks like we're going to have major problems when he reach his adolescent stage" ... (hmmmm - worried Mom!)
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Ganyan talaga pag gwaping ;)
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